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Looking Afresh

Coming into elderhood affords us the time and space to look at our lives, deal with the past and clear the way into our future.

The following links will take you to pages that explore various aspects of being older. If you would like to add your web site, workshop, group or retreat please see the Contact page.


How we think about things to a large extent determines how we experience them

Psychology Today: Attitude to ageing impacts everything about Ageing

SUCCESS: 5 Attitudes For Aging Gracefully

Psychology Today: "How can we enjoy each time like the first time?"

Lion's Roar: "Beginner’s mind is open, curious, and unbound by concepts and opinions."

Leo Babauta: "Practice seeing life with a beginner’s mind."


Careful thought about our behaviour and beliefs.

The Guardian: Reflections on older people by Michele Hanson

Inner Self: "Reflections on ageing and the comfort of growing older."

Lifehack: "taking a step back and reflecting on your life, behavior and beliefs."

Agile Lean Life: "Tools to help you with self-reflection."

Positive Psychology: "self-reflection questions for introspection."

Letting go

Holding onto the past, good or bad depletes, letting go energises.

Lifehack: How to Learn to Let Go of What You Can’t Control

Devolop Good Habits: How to Let Go of the Past and Live in the Present Moment

Psychology Today: "Holding on to pain doesn’t fix anything. Replaying the past over and over again doesn’t change it, and wishing things were different doesn’t make it so."

Greater Good magazine: "Sometimes you just have to let it go."

Jack Kornfield: “Did I love well?” “Did I live fully?” “Did I learn to let go?”

tiny buddha: "“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah"

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Only by feeling do I know that I am alive.

Stanford News: "How people want to feel determines whether others can influence their emotions"

Ageing Well Example: Emotional changes with ageing

Psychology Today: "Do we "mellow out" with age, or have stronger emotional reactions?"

The Psychologist: "Why emotional experiences get better with age."

tiny buddha: "How to cope with the fear of ageing"

Dr. Marjorie Schuman: Emotional equanimity - how I feel right now.

The Psychologist: "A maturing picture of emotion"


Feelings follow thoughts and thoughts follow feelings - it's a positive feedback system!

Age UK: How and why our thinking skills change with age.

Positive Psychology: 10 Tips to Promote the Positive Aspects of Aging

Psychology Today: "Are emotions and thoughts really as separate as people may think?"

Inspired Human Development (IHD): "Changing thoughts and feelings through action."

Veronica Walsh's CBT Blog: Are our thoughts responsible for our feelings and behaviours? A Cognitive Behavourial (CBT) view.

tiny buddha: "You are not your thoughts and feelings and they don’t have to bring you down."

Jack Kornfield: "Our thoughts are always more provisional and one sided than we admit."


National Institute on Aging: sexuality in later life

Good Men Project: Emotional Vulnerability – the Key To True Intimacy

Psychology Today: "Seven components of intimate relationships help define "intimacy."

Psychology Today: "What does intimacy have to do with spirituality?"

The Conversation: "Older people still have sex, but it’s the intimacy and affection that matters more."

Good Therapy: "Intimacy is important because humans are social creatures who thrive on close personal relationships with others."

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